"Mistress, this is my girlfriend S. S, this is my Mistress, Miss Kaila."
My slave M7, his girlfriend S, and I were sitting in a sushi restaurant in Marina del Rey.
From the moment we met, I'd encouraged him to date with openness and honesty about his submissiveness. To realize it is possible to be in a loving, mutually respectful relationship with a partner who can and will embrace all of who he is. He ultimately met S, who welcomed him with curiosity, interest, and acceptance.
She asked for help learning communication skills and concrete techniques to connect with him in ways that felt good for both of them. He requested support expressing his needs and overcoming the shame surrounding them with her.
For well over a decade, I have worked with couples to help them understand, share, and explore their kinky curiosities and desires with each other.
In a safe space free of shame, blame, or judgment, you can learn how to connect and communicate in the love language of kink. It is possible to negotiate, navigate, and co-create lasting erotic and kink-positive relationships that can be playful, fun, and deeply fulfilling for all involved.
If you are seeking to strengthen your erotic and emotional bond as a couple in a safe and supportive way, you are welcome to contact me.
Kink Coaching involves confidential and supportive guidance in examining your interests, concerns, and questions about BDSM. You will learn how to create and deepen trust, safety, and a healthy connection to your desires independently and interdependently with each other.
Kink Coaching is a collaborative process that may involve immediate solutions to your kink curiosities and concerns, solution-focused exploration, interactive exercises, and continued education with resources.
Areas that may be covered include, but are not limited to: Identifying and expressing your needs and interests, recovery from sexual trauma and shame, healing trust in yourself and each other, exploring power dynamics and power play in and out of the bedroom, lifestyle relationships, exploring the opening of a monogamous relationship, navigating non-monogamy, and more.
Kink Coaching involves talk only. Interactive exercises will be offered for couples to explore outside of coaching sessions and feedback and guidance will be provided as needed.
Inquiries for Kink Coaching may be submitted here.
BDSM 101 FOR COUPLES: AN INTRODUCTION
BDSM 101 For Couples is an exhilarating introduction to the wonderful world of kink. You will discover which areas in this infinite playground resonate with and excite you most, learn how to share and experience new practices with your partner in playful, safe, and exciting ways, and practice vulnerable and powerful communication in the process.
The realm of BDSM offers incredible opportunities to deepen your trust, intimacy, and connection with yourself and with each other.
This journey will be tailored to your unique curiosities, interests, and desires as a couple. BDSM 101 For Couples involves talk sessions that may be conducted online or in person when available.
Send me a message to connect when you are ready to begin.
SPECIFIC SKILL INSTRUCTION
For couples interested in learning about specific skills, I offer instruction in the following areas and beyond for you to safely learn and practice with your partner:
Dominance & submission
Creative Role Play Scenarios
Bondage (Rope, Leather, etc.)
Impact Play (Flogging, Paddling, etc.)
The Art of Tease & Denial
Temperature & Sensation Play
Erotic Talk & The Power of Words
The Psychology & Practice of BDSM
Discipline & Behavior Modification
Slapping & Safe Choking
Fetishes & Worship
If you are interested in kink & BDSM instruction, click here.
kink-friendly, sex-positive relationship counseling
For couples experiencing conflict, stress, fear, or frustration, I offer kink-friendly, sex-positive relationship counseling. I practice from a holistic perspective: Whether problems are arising from a kink or non-kink related issue, the root can be unearthed and healed. Together as a team, not as enemies.
My work is informed by my graduate degrees in Marriage & Family Therapy and Sex Therapy; over 12 years of experience in Professional BDSM, psychotherapy, and sex education; and a lifetime of my own work in personal and professional growth and development.
If you are interested in kink-friendly, sex-positive relationship counseling, click here.